As the last post was about letting go of your past hurt to move on...I want to start this one with an anonymous response to last post...
"Your past may have been dark so that your future can be bright. Theres no need to hold onto your past because there's nothing that you can do about it, dwelling on it won't change it. It is what it is; live and love through it!"
This is oh so very true...but why is it that once I'm starting to let go of the past so that I can move all of a sudden he's dwelling on my past. I know there are certain standards one must uphold but my past is my past for a reason. People make decions in life that may not always be the best...that's why we learn and move on...so why is it so hard for you as a guy to let go of the things that may have happened in my past!?!
2 comments:
Me personally, I agree that your past is your past. Ppl change, from one relationship to the next. Yeah at times we may revert to things in our past and do them again, but that doesn't mean we will do it again. When you ask a person about their past you have to take certain things into consideration; 1 Their honesty just for telling you bout their past. 2 The fact that they trust you enough to tell you. And 3 The fact that they are letting you in PERIOD... The person doesn't have to tell you anything bout their past but they choose to let you in because they see something in you that they feel comfortable enough to tell you this information. One of the most important factors when dealing with someones past is remember that you aren't anyone special to be judging them because we all kno we each have a blemish on past. So who am I to judge you because of what you did back then, there may have been a reason why they did what they did. So it's a must to be open minded and non-judgemental. I kno there are those situations and things that the person may have that aren't really attractive but everyone deserves a second chance, especially at love.
If he holds your past against you that right there to me is a problem. It means at anytime he will or may bring it up in an arguement, he may look at you in a different light, and he may jus decide that he doesn't want to deal with someone who has certain blemishes. But he must also realize that he jus might lose out on someone who maybe special and could potentially be the one. To many times we judge a person jus based on what we think we kno, what we've heard and what they've told us without taking the time to really get to kno them, but we forget is that none of us are perfect and we all have our own skeletons and the only way to get over our past is to grow above them and try and become better individuals.
Let your past support you, not haunt you... So if they are not will to understand your past, def don't let them haunt you bout it because they are not worth it. Someone else will accept you as is!
The greatest challenge in life is to find someone who knows all your flaws, differences and mistakes yet still loves everything about you!
C.E.B.M.
p.s.
dude...ur responses are always like...ummmm perfect lol!!! ummmm I'm waiting on that blog!!
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